If someone you love has a drinking problem, you may be struggling with a number of painful emotions, including shame, fear, anger, and self blame. Dealing with a loved one’s alcohol problem can be an emotional rollercoaster. It’s vital that you take care of yourself and get support you need. A good place to start is by joining a group. Listening to others with the same challenges can be a tremendous source of comfort and support.
1. You can not force someone you love to stop abusing alcohol
As much as you may want to, and as hard as it is to watch, you can’t make someone stop drinking. The choice is up to them.
2. Don’t expect the person to stop drinking and stay sober without help
Your loved one will need treatment, support, and new coping skills to overcome a serious drinking problem.
3. Recovery is an ongoing process
Recovery is a bumpy road, requiring time and patience. An alcoholic will not magically become a different person once sober. And the problems that led to the alcohol abuse in the first place will have to be faced.
4. Don’t attempt to punish, threaten, or bribe
Keep this in your mind, once you threaten your loved one or offer a bribe, they won’t stay long to be healed. They will back to their old self and it will become harder to make them quit again.
5. Don’t Leave them
Your loved ones need your support, if you leave them it will worse the situation.